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God Whistles

From the time my kids were barely big enough to toddle, every day when I came home from work I would whistle as I entered the door. It was my version, I guess, of “Hi honey, I’m home.” I loved hearing the kids’ squeals and shouts of “Daddy!” and listening to the precious pitter-patter of their feet running to hug me.

As they got bigger, that became my call for them to come find me. When it was time to leave the park or play-place, I’d give that same little whistle and they’d come running, regardless of how much fun they were having. In a loud and crowded room, across a park or swimming pool, from downstairs when it is time to get in the van – they hear that whistle instinctively, and know it means “Dad’s calling”.

That explains why tears filled my eyes when I read a verse from the prophet Isaiah I had never picked up on before. Isaiah 5:26 – “He lifts up a banner for the distant nations, he WHISTLES for those at the ends of the earth. Here they come, swiftly and speedily!”

God whistles. He whistles when it is time to gather His people.

If you know me at all, you could guess that after I dried my eyes, I whistled – and the kids came running – and we had a little lesson. After giggling together at the thought of God whistling and guessing what it might sound like, I told them I hope more than anything that when God whistles for them, they run to Him swiftly and speedily!

Oh God, please whistle for my kids!

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Parenting Resources

Friday night we had a fun on-line parenting seminar.  Thanks to all of you who tuned it and added to the conversation.  It was fun, hopefully helpful, and we will definitely find more opportunities to do it again on different topics.

In our talk, I referenced several books and wanted to list those here for future reference:

  • “Right from Wrong” by Josh McDowell.  (Word Publishing, 1994) – This book (specifically chapter 6) was the main source I used for the content of my talk.  See my notes at the end of this post.
  • “Not Even a Hint” by Joshua Harris. (Multnomah Publishers, 2003)
  • “Questions You Can’t Ask Your Mama About Sex” by Craig Gross and Mike Foster (Youth Specialties, 2005)
  • “God’s Design for Sex” series by Stan Jones and Carolyn Nystrum.  (4 Book Series.)
  • “Parent’s Guide to the Spiritual Growth of Children” by John Trent, Rick Osborne, Kurt Bruner (Focus on the Family, 2000)

Notes from my talk:

Intro – Review Rusty’s message from Relationslips Week 3

  • Three hats parents wear
    • Groundskeeper – sets the boundaries
    • Official – enforces the rules for the good of the game.  “This is how it is supposed to be played.”
    • Coach – keeps players focussed on the bigger picture

I’m taking this information from Chapter 6 of “Right from Wrong” – “The Test of Truth” – but applying it in a more “developmental stages” idea.

  • The Test of Truth
    • Precept
    • Principle
    • Person

Proverbs 22:6  “Train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not turn from it.”

  • This verse is a principle, not a promise.
  • We all as parents want so badly for this to be true!
  • This chapter gives us a framework to help it become true for our kids – to give them skills to know what is best, and to help them to choose it when they are faced with a decision.

Precept

  • The first steps in understanding something.
    • Think Math.  We have a 2nd grader who is learning addition facts.  Amy and I know that in a few years, she’ll be doing Algebra and crazy theories.
    • But right now, she NEEDS to learn that every time, without fail, 2+2=4.  Those are the precepts of Math.
  • Developmentally, we start teaching our kids to obey precepts (i.e. “rules”) from the very beginning.  Don’t wait until “they’re big enough to understand.  They are learning authority and obedience from day one.
  • Every time, without fail, we follow God’s precepts.
  • Psalm 119:9 – “How can a young man keep his way pure?  By living according to your word.”  God’s Precepts.
  • Galatians 3:24 NASB – “Therefore the Law has become our tutor to lead us to Christ.”
  • Precepts aren’t the end.  The Bible isn’t about a list of do’s and don’ts that we simply obey for obedience’s sake any more than my daughter has to learn 2+2=4 for addition’s sake.
  • Precepts lead us to the next step of understanding…

Principle

  • Behind each specific command (precept) is a principle.
  • Principles explain the “WHY” behind the precept.
    • Honesty is the principle behind “Thou shall not lie.”  Honesty is a better way to live than lying.
    • Value for life is the principle behind “Thou shall not kill.”  Loving people and helping them live and succeed is a better way to live than murder.
  • Principles help us see the right/best way to live, not just a list of rules to keep.
  • My 10 year old son has entered this stage.  He wants to know why he needs to make right decisions when many of his friends don’t.
    • He sees it a lot in areas of respect.  Respect for authorities like parents.  Respect for property.  Respect for other people, like his little sisters and the twerpy kid on the block.
    • I have had to have many conversations with him explaining the WHY behind the rules we have enforced in our home.
  • But Principles for life aren’t even the end.  There is a motiving factor for behavior even beyond that.  It is one we as parents often need to relearn every day…

Person

  • Precepts and principles have one job – to teach us about God and His Character.
  • The ultimate purpose of God in every precept is to bring people to the knowledge of Himself.
    • Don’t murder – Value life – Life comes from God – He IS life.
    • Don’t lie – Honesty is the best policy – God IS truth
    • Don’t talk back – Respect and listen to people who have authority over you – God is our authority AND His ways are best by far
  • Moses said in Ex 33 “Teach me your ways so I may know you.”

Precepts – Boundaries – Right and Wrong = must be learned early

Principles – The “Why’s” in life – the reason behind the rule = help life make sense and show us the best way to live

Person of God – His Character = our ultimate goal

We are not raising kids.  We are raising adults.  When my children are adults, I want them to know and have the character of God.  That starts with obeying His precepts, understanding his principles, and finally embracing his character.

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Nintendo Versus Imagination

This Christmas a Nintendo Wii was given to our family.  (You know who you are, and thank you VERY MUCH!)  After two days of playing it too much already, we sent the kids off to try their brains at something else.  As is always the case, I was blown away at how much fun a simple cardboard box can be.  Nintendo has NOTHING on a healthy, kid-sized imagination.  (And Southwest Airlines has apparently done some good advertising…)

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If I Were a Turkey…

Today the kids wrote in their writing journals on the topic, “If you were a turkey in a turkey farm the day before Thanksgiving…”  I’ll just let them speak for themselves.

Nathan, 9 years old, wrote: “If I was a turkey on a turkey farm the day before Thanksgiving, I would be scared.  My friend Jake said, ‘Everybody to the Emergency Hole!’  Everybody gobbled and squawked all the way there.  When the farmer came out, he said, ‘Where’d they go?’  Meanwhile, the turkeys were playing poker, swimming, and eating.  5 days later they came out.”

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Anne, 8 years in old in three weeks, wrote (and I’ll leave it spelled and punctuated the way she did): “If I was a Turkey the day befor Thanksgiving, I would tolk To my friend.  His name would be Turkey.  And I would be picked as the Turkey for the feast!”

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Molly, 6 years old, wrote: “If I was a turkey the day befour Thanksgiving I would dress-up like a business woman.  I would make plans so the Indians and Pilgrams can’t find me because I would hide behind a hay stack.  I would clolor my feathers red, orange, yellow, green, blue, and purple.”

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(In case you can’t read the speech balloon, it says, “Don’t kill me!  PLEASE!”)

My favorite parts: that Nathan said “Meanwhile”, that Anne spells just like I do, and that Molly got the colors in Roy G. Biv order.  What are your favorite parts?

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“Happy Halloween” (Or “Stick ’em up!”)

I’m not sure if this picture (drawn by one of my kids) is trying to scare me, or is being held up by some outlaw.  Either way, it makes me giggle.  Just so I don’t show favoritism, here are the ones the other two kids drew…

So from my ghosts to you, Happy Halloween.  And now the kids are in bed, so I get to dive into their candy….mini-peanut butter cups, here I come.  What is your favorite halloween treat?

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